What is it about the story of falling in love that captivates? I'm not here to logically speculate or provide theories. Simply wondering out loud.
And really. What is it?
The story of how a couple first met. The story of how he proposed (nevermind the still prominent expectation of him doing the proposing). The update of the lovelife being the first topic of conversation when speaking with a friend.
What is it about the attainment of "the other half" that demands particular attention?
And even then - it's only said attainment that holds such attention.
Nevermind the progress of the relationship. The unpredictable ride of it. Nevermind the growth and change we struggle through despite such beginnings - or endings.
Nevermind your own solitary existence with or without the significant other.
Nevermind its unspoken, and possibly boring, inherent value.
It's nearly four in the morning and half-thoughts are fluttering about.
Perhaps some coffee is in order.
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I think being successful at being alone outweighs being the other half of a couple.
ReplyDeleteOf course "success" is the hardest thing to define. Therefore it is the hardest thing to arrive at.
Attainment seems to be such a holy grail, true. Even if everyone thinks the relationship sucks but hell at least you're with someone. VOMIT. That attitude is so gross.
And I prefer not being defined by my couple-dom. Though I don't want the 1st topic of conversation to be about my bf (and I think I'm pretty good at not talking about my friends' sig others before asking about friend/job/life), I do admit I'm slightly bothered when any friend shows a complete lack of interest in my boy. Maybe b/c I think he is very interesting. But I certainly try and catch it when a conversation veers to him for no good reason.
I think love stories are captivating for that reason. It is possible to love many people, but it so hard to stay "in love" with someone you know intimately.
Actually maybe the captivating part is only the falling in love process or the breaking up process. No one wants to watch a movie/read a book about the mundane or the amazing ups and downs or the startling little discoveries ..............Remi
see. thats where i feel differently. and yes i agree - the only "captivating" seems to be that initial falling in love process.
ReplyDeletebut.
i -want- to hear about the ups and downs. i really do. i think the staying in love part is actually the more interesting.
I personally think it is very constructive to be aware of the ups and downs, a real relationship has that turbulence sometimes and it is unfair for many people to think love is all sunshine and uncorns all the time. B/c it is a hell of a wakeup call when that wears off, if you're not realistic.
ReplyDeleteStill, it doesn't mean a lot of people will watch that ;p
well damn it! there must be some way to make people pay attention!
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